I have always been lucky with J in the sense that he has slept through the night with no disturbances since he was 5 weeks old, from then he has slept for at least 10 hours each night unless of an illness or bad dream, which isn’t often at all. In fact his sleeping has been so good that when I have told fellow mums about this they have called me a liar and one even told me she wanted to punch me in the face because of it. It’s not that I’m bragging about it, I’ve never taken it for granted and I certainly don’t take credit for it, but if it comes up in conversation what else can I say? I have nothing but sympathy and admiration for parents who are having sleepless nights on a regular basis. More so than ever after this last week….
I had one night where J had a fever and seemed to be hallucinating, he was seeing butterflies and caterpillars everywhere. I tried for a little while to get him into his own bed thinking he’d had a bad dream, but after a while I realised he was really concerned and was crawling out of his bed in a bid to escape what he was seeing. I took him into my bed and tried to comfort him but the hallucinations continued there, with him even hitting me at one point because I had butterflies all over me. It was a long and stressful night but thankfully after some Calpol, half an hour of the fan on him and the distraction of the TV I managed to get him to drift off.
The night after that he was nervous to go to bed as he was still convinced there was animals in there, so I spent the next day in his room as much as possible, to show him it was a nice place to be. He wouldn’t go near his bed for a while but after coaxing him in with cuddles and stories, he was soon back in his own bed. I thought that may have been the end of it but nope….
Since then he has been so reluctant to go to bed, but I don’t think it’s for any other reason other than threenager stubbornness because I gave him that one night of attention. He’s not crying or upset, he is just getting out of his bed constantly. And when I say constantly I mean he isn’t even waiting until I’ve left his bedroom after putting him back before he is climbing out of bed again. No fuss, no arguing, no fighting me when I put him back, just up and down in silence.
I have tried the ‘Supernanny’ approach for three nights now, putting him back to bed without speaking to him as soon as he gets up. Unfortunately it doesn’t seem to be working and for those three nights we’ve had this from bedtime-11ish and then again 3.30-6am. I’m at a loss, I don’t know what else to try.
We’ve got to the stage where I can’t back down, it’s like we subconsciously entered a battle and if I give in now I’ve lost and my hard work until now has gone to waste, but at the same time this cycle needs to break
before I break. I’m putting him back to bed at least 100 times during these periods, it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. It’s mentally and physically draining me. I’m frustrated and angry, I’m feeling like I want to scream at him, I’m crying silently as I’m doing it, I’m laughing at how utterly ridiculous it is. It’s too much for me to do on my own so I’ve had to call on my mum to stay over and help me. I feel awful. I can’t do this on my own.
Please someone, send me some advice, coffee or a nanny!!